Confidence Training - Developing Self-Kindness

THE DESTROYED SELF - A PERSONAL TRAGEDY
I began my career as a conventional voice coach, and over time began to question the methods I was taught to teach. In an act of rebellion, I threw away my own methods.  I determined I was building a box, a limiting trap for myself and others. Promoting a kind of culturally reinforced expressive oppression onto myself others.  I had to go in a different direction.  Through research and experimentation, I discovered that many of our cultural troubles are created by and thrive upon self-imposed, repressive non-expression.  Please call 512.554.8771 right now or by email  Request a FREE Phone Consultation.

Many of us don't know what we need, want or desire. We have watered down our selves to the point of extinction.  Our candle is almost blown out.  We have become a repressed, unexpressive, timid, doubtful, and compliant shadow of our true selves.  We've have been taught assertive behavior leads to violence.  What a tragedy.  We repress our needs daily.  We don't ask for what we truly desire.  We refuse to go inside our true hearts, seek out our true nature.   Our failure to honor our deepest desires generates frustration and anger.  This anger gets directed somewhere.  At ourselves.  We attack ourselves.  The attack is violent.  We are trying to break free, but we don't know how.  Trapped in a spider-web of untested beliefs, anger and rage, we act out in violence.  We try to hide it, but it grows and spills out into the world.  This violence designs a life we do not desire.  We drive away those who love us.  We live someone elses life.  Not our own.  Our desired life becomes a fantasy.  Our actual life, a nightmare.  Without the self.  We are lost.  We believe we have no choice. 

Is that true? Are we violent or are the choices we make moment to moment generating the anger?  What if you could learn to choose another path?  What have you conditioned yourself out of?  What limitations have you bought into?  Are they true or just beliefs that stop you from going where you desire to go?  You have been taught that fierceness will destroy you. Is that true?  Do you know what fierceness is?  Are you curious to find out?

Self kindness is missing in western culture.  What is self kindness? I personally have and observe, that many people choose to beat themselves up.  Many choose self-loathing and self-abuse as a means or vehicle to create a successful life.  What a tragedy?  How can a person be self-cruel and expect to generate a healthy life?  We've been conditioned to whip ourselves into shape, perform various acts of cruelty on ourselves.  Why is this?   What have been taught to believe?  Are you lazy?  Have you been taught that you are a corrupt being?  What if we could find a kinder, gentler, easier path?  Might our lives become more enjoyable?  More worth living?

When we begin to peel away the social conditioning half-truths and lies.  As well as the hopelessness, pain and anger generated by them.  We may discover a new possibility.  A possibility that only you can determine, by taking risks and thinking with your own awareness.  You may discover that underneath all that stuff, resides a pristine, untouched, kind, nurturing, and beautiful  being ready to move out into the worl as a force of nature.  I belive your potential is staggering.  What is you are a being who is the embodiment of kindness, caring, contribution and hope?  What if you crave to live in, be a part of and help design a world that everyone can thrive in.  Let's begin the process now.  It requires a level of fearless curiosity.  But we can do it.  I believe you are that being.

THE FIERCENESS & SELF KINDNESS TRAINING MODEL
Fierceness appears to me as a primary expressive omission in our experience.  It is trained out of us at an early age.  A great trajedy.  We are told that Fierceness leads to violence; however, the word fierceness comes from the latin root "Ferocia" which means: "high spirit, proud, untamable, unbridled, brave and bold."  What has become of the fierce people? Where are they? It would appear that this natural possibility of expression has been wiped out of our cultural experience and delegated to the likes of actors, singers and musicians.  What would we be capable of, if this missing component of expressive choice were reintroduced into our culture? Would it be the end of the obedient, sheep like model being perpetrated on us?

I've observed that personal expressive mastery, the ability to shine, is virtually wiped out at every level of social interaction.  Our people are being taught daily how to be impotent, ineffective expressives, speakers and singers through consonant emphasis, formality of expression, and avoidance of social conflict at home and at every level of our society. In short, many children and adults are being taught to become observational, submissive, passive and compliant factory workers, to never bloom into the potent, great leaders that lie dormant inside, just waiting to come out.  We've been and are training kids to become adults who “play small,” pretend to be less than they are. This training creates angry, violent and unexpressive beings; verbally, artistically and creatively.  Let's end this today.

My focus is to assist you in letting go of the withholding model of living and move you into your rich generous self.  We can do this by killing cruelty with kindness.   I have methods and tools for you that will free up expressing your needs, wants and desires so you can begin asking the world and universe for what you want.   Please call 512.554.8771 right now or by email  Request a FREE Phone Consultation.